One of our basic psychological needs is to feel safely and securely attached. We long for intimacy. We want to feel connected, understood, appreciated, nourished and acknowledged. And when we don’t get those needs met, we protest. We get into a survival dance that is reactive and hurtful. Continue reading
Commented on By Trix O’Callaghan (Counselling Psychologist) - Destiny Magazine, 23 March 2010
You may still love your ex, but have you dealt with the problems that caused the break-up?
If you’re considering getting back together with your ex, you need to think about a couple of factors before diving back into the deep end. The harsh reality is that your previous attempt failed, so in order to make it right the second time around, you’ll need a fresh start. Trix O’Callaghan, a psychologist , advises us how to start over with an old lover: Continue reading
When couples find love and romance they often describe it as one of the happiest times
in their lives. We feel like we are with the perfect person, finally someone who make us
feel loved, who appreciates us and who we can feel safe with. We feel relaxed joyfulness
and full aliveness. Since it feels so good, we decide to make a bond. Continue reading